Friday, March 21, 2014

The BEST brother anyone could ever ask for. Here's to you Travis.

Travis W. Hugentobler
May 22, 1987 - March 21, 2009

Go Big or Go Home, and for us, going home is not an option. By us I mean us Hugentobler's, not to be confused by some actor, pop star, athlete or anyone else out there. Believe it or not, we live by that, literally, figuratively, physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. And this, this is to the one man who showed us how to live this way. This is for you Travis, the best big brother anyone could ever have or ask for.

To tell you more about him, it can be summed up in one simple sentence. Travis IS THE MAN! I say is because I know I will see him again. For from an earthy perspective, Travis was THE MAN! Either way says it perfectly. 

Travis was a tough guy from the start. I don't mean a cocky jock who flaunts every thing, no. He was tough. I remember hearing stories about him from my oldest brothers from when they were all kids. One that comes to mind first was a time, or two, or three thousand that they were on the trampoline and they'd tease Travis again and again until finally Travis would dive head-long at them and bash his head against the springs/rail and cut it open. (I've seen the missing hair from the scars myself.) Yet, from what I recall my brothers saying, he never cried. He broke a countless number of bones, to name a few, his wrist (a couple of times) along with his ankle (also a couple of times) he shattered his tibia in five places and broke his fibula in half (that's his shin folks) and as soon as he recovered from that, he broke his collar bone. And to top this list off, he has also had brain surgery to remove a growing blood clot on his brain. Accident prone? Or a born stunt man? You pick.

But it's not his many visits to the E.R. that defines who my brother is...no. He is so much more than meets the eye. 

Travis and I didn't talk a whole lot growing up. We were close enough in age to go "hang out" sometimes, but not too often, maybe not as often as I would have liked. Growing up I remember setting up and playing a monopoly game in his room during a week night and taking three or four days to finish it. I remember the nights that I would come into his room while he was doing homework and he'd teach me some German words so he could also prepare for tests and other homework. I remember how he helped teach me how to make a perfect knot in a tie, and how to shave the back of my neck without a mirror. I remember the times when he would drive me to school for early morning class and we'd listen to some awesome new band that he had found, particularly 10 Years. I remember going dirt biking with him out to Little Gem or Blacks Creek and buying a Gatorade, Butterfinger, and the French Onion Sun Chips (I have yet to find those chips again). I remember when he got into a bit of trouble, he came and talked to me about it all and taught me what not to do. I remember him going to church and being active with his priests quorum. I remember walking in on him while he was kneeling by his bed and praying, while his scriptures lay open on his bed. I remember the first time I ever say that man cry...when he was set apart as a missionary. 

He was patient, full of love, compassion, understanding, wisdom, knowledge, humility, meekness, charity, faith, kindness, hope, and truth. No, he wasn't perfect, he was human, but because of that, he is a perfect brother. 

Travis died exactly five years from today, March 21, 2014. I know he is still around, watching over all of us.

For those of you who know/knew Travis, know that he is watching over you and that he loves you. For those of you who do not, know that he is too watching over you and loves you. 

Travis died doing what he loves most, dirt biking. I remember when he said, "When I die, it better on a bike." He got his wish, and I know the Lord needs him on the other side. 

Travis taught me how to live, breathe, work, pray, ride a dirt bike, listen and obey. He taught me patience, how to find peace, where to look when you are struggling and who to talk to. He showed me how to live happily, all the time, while still living a righteous life. He taught me that I am never alone, even when everyone is gone and there is no one to see. He taught me what the word love and the phrase I love you really means. He never gave up on me, or us, or any of you. 

So here is to you Travis Wayne Hugentobler. Thank you for your incredible life, example, friendship, brotherly love, and patience. I think about you more than I can say. I miss you more than words will express. And I love you more than anyone will ever know. 'Til we meet again my brother. God Speed.







Sunday, March 2, 2014

Lily Pads and Starfish

To the most gorgeous woman ever and BEST friend forever, Tiffanie


Oh if only lily pads did,
Grow right out in the sand.
Then they would forever and always,
Fit right into your hand. 

It's said that once we know this,
Our minds could even comprehend,
All the stars around us, are in our grasp to bend. 

It is a simple common knowledge,
That so many do not believe. 
That changing the size of a starfish, is something we can achieve.

So take to heart this poem, 
And keep it close by. 
For I am going to find you one, 
Oh surely I will try. 

I will search high and low,
Near and far, until I am exhausted to pieces. 
But I will find that starfish you most dearly want,
Most likely among the beaches.

I love you.

Saturday, March 1, 2014

Angels

“Angels who are resurrected or translated are able to conceal their angelic characteristics, including their great light and glory, and mingle among human beings as if they were mortals.”

— Donald W. Parry

"There is no doubt that beings from the unseen world of spirits can and do visit righteous mortals from all walks of life...,from prophets to primary children."


-Andrew C. Skinner

One thing that I have learned about angels is that they are all around all the time fighting off the demons of the unseen world of spirits. 

I also know for a fact that if I wouldn't have had Angels throughout my life, not just to fight off demons, but to protect me from harm, I would not be alive today. I cannot begin to count all the times I should have or could have died in my life. But they are there, quite literally to bear me up, why? because there is something that I am yet to accomplish that I promised, no, covenanted with God that I would do. What that is? I know not. But what I do know is that so long as I do my part to be and stay righteous to the best of my ability, God will guide me as to what I need to do. And I know that he too will guide you.

Another thing that I hope you have learned, is that angels come, not only from the unseen world of spirits around us, but in our physical tangible world, as other people. 

Right now I speak specifically about my Angel. She is my BEST Friend and is absolutely the greatest person to have ever been in my life. She listens when I am down. She helps me see things from a different perspective, helping me open my eyes and heart. She makes me want to be a better me, not only for her but for myself. She inspires me to aspire (in a non-prideful way) to be the best me. She is so understanding and patient. She is beautiful both outside and in. She is my Angel, my Heaven here on earth. With her I can accomplish anything. God be thanked forever for leading us on paths that came together. 

God is good. And so are His angels, both of the unseen world of spirits and the world we live in. Remember, we all have the ability to do good within us, but it is up to us to let it out and manifest our goodness to the world. Everything starts small, line upon line, precept upon precept, here a little and there a little. As we share our good light, our light will grow more and more. 

God be with you my friends, and His angels round about you to bear you up.

Wednesday, November 20, 2013

Purpose

If you haven't read Tiffanie's post at schpiffanie.blogspot.com, Birds of a Feather, you ought to. After reading it all I immediately had this pop into my head, "It is not what you say, but what you do that defines you. Remember, what we do in life echoes in eternity. We are here for a purpose, whether it is a short or a long time that we are here, so long as we are striving to be good and loving others and being kind, God will use us as He needs. And then, and only then, shall we fulfill our purpose."

This has got me thinking a lot about our purpose in life. So to go out on a limb and to be a little "abstract" what is our purpose? Is it to come here, live a full life according to what others say is a full life and then die and be done? Is it to be born, learn what is "fun" and do that for the rest of our measly lives? Is it to be here and strive to be the best at everything we do, stepping on whomever we need to in order that we get exactly what we want? Not caring about others, only feeding our pride and passions pushing more and more, making millions and not knowing what to do with all our filthy money until finally we croak? Or, is it to simply live? To live in peace with others. To live in love with the one you choose and love. To live in laughter, enjoying all the little jokes. To live in humility, taking in the majesty of the glorious world around, not the one built by man, but the one that we populate. To live in kindness to those around you, striving to build them up. Helping those who have fallen and fear that they may never get up. Encouraging all around you to be better. To live in joy, with your family, friends, children, husband or wife. To live in compassion, bridling all your passions, showing compassion to others, not because you seek credit or publicity, but because you genuinely care for others. To live in freedom, without any guilt in your conscious, knowing that what you are doing would not be frowned upon by your family, friends, or God. To live as you, bringing to the table all you have to offer and not being ashamed of who you really are. Being your best at all times.

So go, BE YOU and don't be afraid of what others are going to think, because at the end of the day, it is just you and the man in the mirror. And if you are lucky enough, it is you, your spouse and the two of you in the mirror.

At this point I would advise you read the blog post "Marriage is not for you". Because it isn't about you, it is about that one true love that you find. It is all for them. Everything you do. And if they feel that way too, then indeed, you will have a marriage filled with adventure. I'm no expert by any means, but I do understand that so long as you make everything an adventure, life is so much more fun.

Monday, November 18, 2013

A Real Man

10 WAYS TO KNOW YOU’RE DATING A REAL MAN

I’ve made posts in the past about qualities of a gentleman, as well as the differences between a ‘bad boy’ and a jerk. But, how does this all translate into how somebody acts while in a relationship?

A man may be able to put across a great image, but it could simply be a cover for hidden shortcomings, or he could just be totally faking it to ‘get the girl.’

Here are some ways to know if you’ve struck gold:

A real man values more than just your looks.

Is every compliment from him about a different body part? It doesn’t matter how creative he can be, if a guy’s sole focus is on how you look, or ‘talking dirty,’ see it as a red flag. A real man will value your personality, your kindness, your intelligence, and who you are as a person, in general. The things he makes you feel good about will be things that you control, not just results of getting lucky in the gene pool.

A real man will never be intimidated by your motivation.

A man who has goals for himself, will want to be with a woman who has goals for her own life, too. He will never feel intimidated or threatened by a woman who goes after what she wants. He will want to be part of a power couple, rather than a dictatorship. Be mindful of anyone who tries to keep you from pursuing your dreams.

A real man will have more interests than just you.

I don’t mean this in a negative way. You should, of course, be a priority in his life – but he needs to have a life as well. Interests, friends, hobbies, aspirations. If a man works his entire life around you, it’s another red flag – relationships should be a great part of your life, but not encompass your whole life.

A real man will give you answers.

No matter how awkward or uncomfortable a situation is, a real man will approach it, and you, with respect. I have always felt that a mark of a man is how he handles conflict, criticism, and less-than-ideal situations. A man will not dance around answers or make excuses. If there is something you two need to talk about, he will talk about it.

A real man is direct.

In addition to the last point – there will be no mind games or manipulation in your relationship. A man will be direct, to the point, and honest with you…but with kindness.

A real man will trust you.

As long as you haven’t betrayed his trust, a man will NOT be paranoid, or snoop around invading your privacy to make sure you’re not doing anything bad. He will have confidence in your relationship. A boy will project his own insecurities onto you, and like termites in a house, will eat away at the foundation of what you’ve built.

A real man is cool, calm, and collected.

It should be understood that part of what comes with the territory of having a girlfriend, is dealing with her getting hit on. If you’re at the bar together, or if she’s out with her friends, it goes without saying that your girlfriend will get hit on every once in awhile.

Instead of letting his primate instincts prevail and beating his chest like an angry gorilla to scare off competition, a confident man will calmly make his position known, and understand that you’re still going home with him at the end of the night.

A real man will show you respect.

Nothing signifies an empty shell of a man more than someone who disrespects women, animals, or children. A real man will treat you with the respect that you deserve, never force you to do anything you’re uncomfortable with, and never mistreat you. Be honest enough with yourself to walk away from any situation that is dangerous to you, physically or emotionally.

A real man will put effort into your relationship.

Boys are generally apathetic and just look for one thing from a woman. A man, will do what it takes to make you happy, both inside and outside of the bedroom. Your happiness, is his reward.

A real man will make you want to be the best version of yourself, without changing who you really are.

A man will empower those around him. He will strive for greatness and therefore inspire others to strive for it as well. This not only includes friends and co-workers, but also significant others.

As Mark Twain said - Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.

If you do have one of these men in your life, make sure he knows he is appreciated.


Courtesy of http://jamesmsama.wordpress.com/2013/11/06/10-ways-to-know-youre-dating-a-real-man/